Why? Why are you doing this? I ask myself this as my Beauty Bliss project continues to evolve. My cousin Beth and I are co-creating to make A BeYOUtiful World happen. The goal is to take 500 photos of different women and to hold a gallery at the end. As I take off with my camera, I ask myself why? That’s what others will want to know. Why are you doing this? What is the purpose of this project? When I hit myself with this one, the answer came swiftly and clearly:
I want to do this because I think we should spend more time empowering each other than judging one another. Than judging ourselves. I want us to think positively about ourselves.
I want people to see what I see. I want them to feel what I feel. I want them to feel their potential. To know they’re awesome. To feel abundant. To feel beautiful. I’ve said before that I enjoy drawing portraits. It’s the ‘flaws’ the little imperfections and quirks that excite me to sketch someone. Those subtle differences that make us who we are. They are perfect. You are perfect. I am perfect. Right now in this time and space stop and feel it. Feel how right this moment is. Feel the possibilities flowing through you. Feel the joy. In this moment you can be enough.
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Life only sucks if you do.
I know, that is a strong statement.
But you see, here’s the hard truth - life isn’t how we see it; how we see life is how WE ARE.
If you’re having a stressful day, you are actually bringing stress to the day.
If people are mean, you are bringing the judgment of mean to everyone you see.
If you can’t seem to get a break, it’s because you are choosing to see failure as permanent instead of a sign showing you where to go.
If life isn’t fair, then the rules you have made up about life are holding you back.
The Truth is that The Uni-verse wants us to be happy. The Uni-verse is an abundant place, but it is also literal. ~Mastin Kipp
Boom you rock my socks every single morning. I thoroughly enjoy waking up to my Daily Love emails. I have finally gotten around to using some of the inspiration I’ve been saving in my inbox. Part of me loves it because it links me to an inspired, loving community. Keep going Brittany. Keep writing. Keep believing. Because this statement above rings true right through my core. We create our experiences. I’ve been writing about it all week. That’s because I believe. I believe life is good. I believe in my dreams. I believe the best is on it’s way. The right stuff is on the way. I am taken care of. I am taken care of by the universe. Continue reading
I know you may be wondering what the hell is up with the Tonya Harding, Nancy Kerrigan pic. There is a correlation to today’s post I promise. It all started because I am an Olympic junkie (what can I say I like to watch people doing their best, giving their all). As the games wound down I was thirsty for more (plus there was nothing else on), so I ended up watching the 20 years later special with the two figure skaters. By the end of the interview I had a great take-away: Let it go. Stop rehashing the past. Forgive and move on.
At work I’ve noticed this. Somehow I have been declared, “Too laid back.” How this is possible or bad I don’t know. I think part of the relaxness people feels comes from my ability or practice of letting go. Having been in a serious car crash when I was younger, plus having a grandpa who drank and found his hidden keys, plus all experiences in life, and being myself in general I learned starting at a young age that you never know. You don’t know when this physical life will end. For you or those surrounding you. How do I want to spend this precious time I’ve been given? I’ll tell you want, I don’t want to be mad or angry. I don’t want the last memory with someone I love to be a fight. Don’t get me wrong I do feel anger and I do get mad. But when I do I stop and ask myself: is this worth getting upset about? Is this really going to be such a big deal in 5 years? In a month? In a week? Will I even remember what this fight is about? Often I find the answer is a solid NO. Stop wasting time being mad. Let it go. I remember reading in Michael Singer’s Untethered Soul. He talked about letting go. The sooner and quicker you let it go, the easier. When you hold on to prejudices and hate and anger and bitterness and lies, the harder it is to get rid of. Worse yet it eats you upside. I have a friend who cheated on her boyfriend. I ask, “how do you not tell.” I grew up where honesty ruled. My family is direct. They’re blunt. They speak their minds. They share their feelings. They share their thoughts. I learned telling the truth is easier than telling a lie, which creates a shame loop that you cannot escape from. One lie leads to more lies. You can be Continue reading
“Today I affirm that there is nothing in me but love. This love comes from total acceptance of myself and the understanding that I am a perfectly imperfect human being. I will walk through today and allow myself to fully express my perfection. I realize that all my “faults” are actually the Universe’s unique way of expressing itself through me. I let go of self judgment and any projected judgments of others that I have chosen to believe and finally allow myself to just be what I truly am: infinite. As this is true for me, so it is true for all other beings on the planet. I will choose to accept everyone in my life with the same radical acceptance I have for myself knowing that we are all perfectly imperfect human beings simply doing the best we can. And so it is.”n- Jackson Kiddard
Your choice of thoughts is powerful. I’ve written this a lot lately, but it is currently what I’ve been on my mind. Part of the BeYOUtiful World project is to find out about how women feel about themselves. If only 4% think they’re beautiful, what is holding the rest the other 96% back? Is it part humbleness? Is it that we don’t feel we deserve the title of beautiful? Does it come in comparing our beauty to someone elses? Is it conditioning? Is it society? Is it media? Ultimately we can’t blame our feelings on anyone else, on any other source. Take responsibility for your own emotions. Yes media and society can influence how we feel but we decide to believe what they say. We define life for ourselves. And I’m not just talking beauty. This is everything. We hold ourselves back. Excuses, blame, fear, comfort zones keep us firmly away from our dream life. Actually they can keep us from dreaming period. I’ve been called a dreamer ever since I was a little girl, but being ambitious and hopeful is never something I’ve been ashamed of. To me it is better to dream and have authentic goals, than to let someone else design my life. Continue reading
I instantly felt happier. That is powerful. I want to pass that on to you. Listen to it. Play it for someone else. I’ve played it for my friends for Gavin and Trenton, for the twins, for my mom. I’ve had dance parties. Share your joy. Boom that hit. We’re always searching for purpose. Before I’ve explored my purpose of being a loving being. But I believe too that our purpose is to be happy and joyful. We deserve to be happy and joyful. I don’t think we can save people, people can choose to save themselves. We can however, share our joy. We can do our best. In doing that we can help spread happiness.
Driving through town the other day, this song started playing. I instantly smiled. I instantly started dancing.
One of the best things I’ve discovered on my spiritual return is that: I can be happy for no reason. Yep I said spiritual return. I used to call it a journey, and it is a journey, a return to spirit. It began when I read Dr. Dyer’s Change Your Thoughts Change Your Life and the Tao. We can sometimes stray from spirit in our conditioning. Here is my return to spirit. I used to believe I needed a reason to be happy. I needed to buy something. I needed to accomplish something. I needed to find something. Happiness always had an attachment. Then one day it hit: f***ing be happy. Period. Happiness is within. Its a state of being. Accept. Love it. Nurture it. Choose happiness. Let it out. Let it out of your heart, out of your spirit. If you want happiness, be happy. Continue reading
Note to Self: Be more present.
Something I find to be challenging sometimes, but something I relish when I’m there is presence. To be fully in the moment. I definitely have a mentality where I live day-by-day, but not always moment-by-moment. I strive to live more in the later. To let go. To let life happen. To let my love flow. To let my passion flow. To do what I love. To say what I feel. Hear what others are sayings. Listen. Give. Give with your whole heart. Be here, right here, right now. Let go. Today I am present. Now I am present. Readers I love you.
The best compliment I’ve gotten recently? You smell like outside. Excuse me? You smell like the woods, like air, like trees. YES! This feels like complete winning to me. I’d just finished a hike. I was soaring high and this had me exploding to be back in the woods. I’ve dug deep. I’ve searched for my passion. What brings me joy? When am I happiest? One of these answers is hiking. I have to hike, period. Why do I enjoy hiking so much?
I love hiking because I feel connected. I feel connected to Nature. I feel connected to myself. I feel whole. I feel perfect. I feel content. I feel complete bliss. We love being outside because nature is whole, perfect, and connected. We want a piece of that, so we seek refuge in the outdoors. When I was in Colorado I’d go to the mountains frequently. I was in such awe of them. I can just stare at mountains. But it was weird because in one aspect I felt so humbled. So small, in the sense that my ‘problems’ and ‘worries’ seemed so small. Why the hell am I taking this so seriously? Look around? What is there to be upset about? Nature does not judge you. Get over it. Get over yourself. Get out there. So even though my problems felt small, I then felt full of infinite possibilities and Continue reading
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”~Marianne Williamson
I really think this is true. I recently finished a book by Jack Kornfield and he talks about paying attention to our thoughts. We have a constant flow of thoughts running through our head. There are thoughts of anger, bitterness, jealousy, doubt and fear, as well as love, joy, happiness, belief. To me we can think all this spectrum of emotions, but it is the power we give to our thoughts that matter. Do I give power to the angry thoughts? Do I give power to the fear ego-driven thoughts? The ego is a part of us, how much do we let it run our life though? What is our relationship to the ego? So I’ve been watching my thoughts, like a fun little game, it is entertaining sometimes just to listen to the ramblings. Continue reading
“So this is not one of those “preprinted” cancer messages. This is a real life story with a happy ending.
My daughter, Chelsey was diagnosed with Pancreatic Cancer at 15. The same disease my mother died very quickly from. For all of you mothers and fathers imagine being at Riley Hospital and having the Doctor tell you your child has a 2% chance of living thru this. My world crashed that day and every day for 2 years as she struggled with the numerous surgeries and being hospitalized every two weeks for chemo. Through it all she stayed positive and never once thought she was not going to make it. I struggled to make sure she had the best doctors in the United States as I prayed daily to God to give me the strength to be strong for her. God heard my prayers, and all those prayer chains around the world praying for her. We had so many good friends helping us, from the Nanny bringing her favorite drink when she was too sick to eat to Linda Palmer giving her back rubs. So today we celebrate her 10 Year Cancer Free Anniversary and I still talk to God daily and thank him for letting me keep her in my life. Chelsey you have so much more to give and do and I can’t wait to be around for all of it. I love you more than life itself.” ~Deb
This beautiful quote was the facebook status of my friend Chelsey’s mom. The stunning girl in the picture is Chelsey. When I read this yesterday it made me stop. I couldn’t help but cry when I read it. It was so raw. So vulnerable. So true.
All day yesterday I had Chelsey on my mind. Ten years of being cancer free? She is such a miracle. How blessed am I to know her? I love being around Chelsey because she is not only unbelievably kind but she loves the feeling of being alive. She loves love. She wants more than anything to be a mom. She Continue reading
“This life has an infinite number of potentials for you; we live in a made to order Universe. Whatever you believe is possible for you and take consistent action upon is what becomes your reality. If you keep telling yourself that your dream isn’t possible, you will come to find that you are absolutely right.
But my friend, if you draw a line in the sand and tell the Universe that your dreams are a reality RIGHT NOW, and take action as if that were the case, you will come to find that you are absolutely right. The question is how long can you live in the fire of your dreams manifestation?
The price you have to pay to live your dream is facing your deepest darkest fear and the reward you receive from this courageous act is the realization that your fear was an illusion and that your dreams were always real.
So I ask you, my friend, are you willing to go there? Are you willing to sit in fire and sacrifice the comfort of your known world for the potential of something amazing, new and unknown? Don’t you want to find out what’s on the other side of your fear? Continue reading