Honestly: Be More Impeccable

The Four Agreements 1. Be impeccable with your word. 2. Don’t take anything personally. 3. Don’t make assumptions. 4. Always do your best. -Miguel RuizAlright yesterday I talked about getting real and being honest with fear. Today I venture into the realm of impeccability. If you haven’t read The Four Agreements, this is one of them. And if I’m being honest with myself I haven’t been very impeccable lately, which also falls into another agreement: always do your best. I can do better. I can be more impeccable.

Being real with myself: stop telling people you will do something ____________. I have found that I do, do the things I say I’m going to, but I haven’t been doing them in the time frame I say I will. So either I need to 1. Not give a deadline 2. Put more of an emphasis on the promise. Okay really I should do number two. Someone asked me to bake a cake for someone. Okay Friday I’m off I’ll experiment then. And I did, but I needed more time. Monday I finally finishing experimenting and have a product to really taste. I tell my cousin I’ll print business cards. I design them that day, but then it takes two weeks before I mail them. Continue reading

F*** Fear: Choosing to Have Fun Instead

Becoming fearless isn't the point.  That's impossible.  It's learning how to control your fear, and how to be free from it.In reality, I have a long list of fears waiting to limit me at any given moment. Most of them can be related to the fear of failure, the fear of success, and the fear of change– but there are countless variations. Name a fear, and I’ve probably had it at some point. The difference between being fearless and standing up to your fears lies in refusing to allow your fears to make your decisions. ~Chris Guillebeau

#2 in Gabby Bernstein’s Miracles Now says to “Clean Up Your Side of the Street”. Be aware. Be aware how often we choose fear over happiness. Gabby then prompts you (me) to write a list of your atop ten biggest fears. GET HONEST. How do these fears play a role in your life? Do the rule of the roost? Do they keep you in a stable comfort zone? LOOK. Look at each fear. Next Gabby says to write down a reason you believe this fear is true. Gaining awareness we should start to see that our fears are:

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Get Outside: TODAY

“The best remedy for those who are afraid, lonely or unhappy is to go outside, somewhere where they can be quite alone with the heavens, nature and God. Because only then does one feel that all is as it should be and that God wishes to see people happy, amidst the simple beauty of nature. As longs as this exists, and it certainly always will, I know that then there will always be comfort for every sorrow, whatever the circumstances may be. And I firmly believe that nature brings solace in all troubles.”~Anne Frank

Today’s post kind of goes hand-in-hand with Monday’s post on Gratitude and a film by Louie Swartzberg. As I hiked through Turkey Run, the other day, sunlight streaming through the trees to light my face and soul it hit me: if I could recommend anything, it would be to get outside more. Go outdoors. Take your kids. Play. Explore. I have to hike everyday. It is good for my soul. For my thoughts.

In Nature I am my truest self. I can be me. It doesn’t matter what size I am. It doesn’t matter if I have make-up on. It doesn’t matter what job I have. It doesn’t matter how much money I have. I am COMPLETELY PRESENT. I am surrounded by the sweet symphony of Nature. The gaggle of geese. The sound of rustling leaves, as squirrels frolic around me. The babbling stream in front of me. The chorus of different birds, harmonizing around me. The soft patter of my feet, as I take off my shoes and explore the world around me. Each moment is perfect. Each moment in sync. I long to lose myself in the woods. Yet paradoxically I find myself there. I connect with my heart, with my thoughts, with my soul. I connect to my intuition. To the dreams of my heart. I connect and radiate the powerful energy flowing through me. I could sing, dance with the energy  threatening to brim over the top. Deeper and deeper I delve. The energy continues to spike.

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BE Present

Being present | #Anxiety Self HelpI make it my intention to go to yoga every Tuesday morning. As I sat during the beginning of class this morning, Tammy encourages us: set an intention for this practice. Initially I go through my usual: do your best. But today I got a BIG flashing sign in my brain saying: BE PRESENT. I think this is one of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves, presence in our lives. Surrendering to the present moment. Allowing ourselves to let go. Allowing our bodies to flow effortlessly. Allowing our breathing to come naturally.  Allowing our thoughts to flow instinctively. Listening to our heart and soul now. Feeling the perfection of this moment. The potential.

This moment right now is what we have. Be in it! Taste and smell and touch and see what a beautiful day it is. Let that sign flash and remind you. Post it. I frequently post notes to myself on my wall to: be more present. Begin now in this moment.

The Gift of Gratitude

You think this is just another day in your life. It’s not just another day. It’s the one day that is given to you today. It’s given to you. It’s a gift. It’s the only gift that you have right now. And the only appropriate response is gratefulness. If you do nothing else but to cultivate that response to the great gift that this unique day is, if you learn to respond as if it were the first day in your life and the very last day, then you will have spent this day very well.

Begin by opening your eyes and be surprised that you have eyes you can open, that incredible array of colors that is constantly offered to us for our pure enjoyment. Look at the sky. We so rarely look at the sky. We so rarely note how different it is from moment to moment with clouds coming and going. We just think of the weather and even of the weather we don’t think of all the many nuances of weather. We just think of good weather and bad weather. This day right now is unique weather, maybe a kind that will never exactly in that form come again. The formation of clouds in the sky will never be the same that is right now. Open your eyes. Look at that.

And in this present moment on this day all the people you meet, all that life from generations and from so many places all over the world flows together and meets you here like a life-giving water if you only open your heart and drink.

So these are just a few of an enormous number of gifts to which we can open your heart. So I wish you that you would open your heart to all these blessings and let them flow through you, that everyone whom you will meet on this day will be blessed by you, just by your eyes, by your smile, by your touch. Just by your presence. Let the gratefulness overflow into blessing all around you. Then it will really be a good day.

I thought the other day of getting rid of this site. I thought I could do with some simplifying in my life. Maybe I should just focus on building my Delish site. Then I watched SuperSoul yesterday and I found this gem. The beauty and inspiration of this video nearly makes me want to cry. This is how I want to live. To see the blessing and gift of each day, each moment, each person. I want to see this world. I am grateful. And when I think of the major passions I have in my life: writing, hiking and cooking, I know I want to do more of them. So I don’t need to simplify. I need to prioritize for my passions. I need to use my time to write everyday. Because sharing positive videos like this is something that feels good to my soul. It allows me to express myself. To show the beauty I see everyday, in my life, in the day, in Nature, in my senses, in my thoughts, in my heart.

So back to this video. I fully encourage you to google Louie Swartzberg. His videos and photos are breathtaking. I’m having a hard time sitting here to write because they make me want to go outside right now. It’s rainy so what. It makes me want to takes today’s gift of rain and experience. Play in the mud. Dance in the rain. I want to explore. I want to travel. I want to feel. I want to feel apart of this world. I want to be in awe. I want to see the world. It does make me feel grateful. Each morning I wake up, I am thankful for waking. For another day. Another gift. What do I want to do with today? What do I want to create? Who will I meet? What will the day bring? What can I bring to the day? Gratitude has been my savior the past years. When I feel down. When I’m struggling. When I feel like I’ve fallen. When I can’t get beyond the present moments challenges. When I want to give up. When I want to feel sorry for myself. I pause. Breathe. And then I remember what all I have. That thankfulness brings the light back out. Wow how great it is to be alive.

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Let Your Light Shine

Let your light shine. #quote #book #BreakEveryChain | via @Emonne MarklandWhat I truly love about this BeYOUtiful Project is the opportunity it provides. The chance to showcase women. To highlight them in all their unique beauty and light. To let their light shine. It really just makes my soul sing. My energy skyrocket. My inspiration take off. And warm my heart all over. Every time I hit post, it just sends a shock of energy through me. It feels good. It feels right. I love this project. I feel like I’m doing what the project is about: promoting positive thinking. But I believe it is bigger than me. This project is about us. And not just women, but people in general. Feeling enough. Feeling blessed. Feeling whole. Feeling good about ourselves.

Even more I enjoy seeing the reactions and positive feedback to the post. It is so simple to take a quick pic and ask a few questions, but that simplicity creates such a wonderful moment and experience.

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Check Yourself

"Heart to heart conversations are the best to me.  Everyone's vulnerable.  Vulnerability attracts honesty, honesty attracts soul connections.“REAL” This word gets to me. “I don’t like all that deep thinking shit….I’m real.” (what someone told me once) Reality is what you make it for one. But also realness is digging deep. It’s talking to yourself. It’s lighting yourself with passion and blazing a trail of purpose. It’s about authenticity. It’s about true nature. It’s about tough conversations. Conversations with others and with YOURSELF. It’s easy to cloud ourselves in excuses, so we’re in a haze of numbness. How easy it is to tell others how to live, but how often do we confront ourselves?  How do we give ourselves the pep talk or the scold? How often do we face our behaviors? Our thoughts?

I’m a fan (shocker) of getting REAL with yourself then. Take an inventory check? What kinds of vibrations are you putting out there? How are you spending your time? What are you doing for your health? What are you doing to relax and let go? Are you meditating? What are you doing for others? What are you doing for your dreams? Are you building? Where you loving today? Did you tell your truth? Did you tell others how you felt? Are you being authentic? Are you being kind? Loving? Are you doing your best?

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Dream Builder: I am a business owner

As I sat surrounded by friends at a bar called Skid Row discussing my friends Kayla’s soon to be graduation from dental school and Chelsey’s house buying, I thought: what the hell am I doing? And then I shake myself and realize, not only am I rocking at being me, but I am a business owner. I don’t know why it never connected before that moment, but I never thought of myself as the creator of my own company, the designer of my own brand. I filled out the paperwork. I constantly put myself out there. I am building and that is beautiful.

We all have our own exciting selves to bring to the world. Our own passions to pursue. Our own purposes and voices to make heard. Our own ideas. We can do it. Gradually we can make our dreams become reality. But first we must start. First we must declare what we want. Actually we have to know what we want. We have to know what we like. What are you passionate about? I can’t tell you how many conversations I’ve had with people and they look at me blankly. Well, what makes you happy? More blank looks. It’s almost like we are afraid to dream. Afraid to be happy. Afraid to have what we want. Afraid of passion. What will others think of my ideas? Shut up the critics. Shut up your own fears and doubts and take action.  Continue reading

Stopped Train Opportunities

I feel beautiful when the train stopped on the tracks becomes an opportunity. ~ Toni Shattuck

There is so much I’m learning from my BeYOUtiful World project. It just fills my heart and souls in ways I can never express with words. In an afternoon with my aunt Toni I had so much fun chatting and getting creative. Her BeYOUtiful answers blew me away (her beauty is answer was: Beauty is the lining of your soul. I swoon for this response). When she wrote down the above train remark it made me stop, think, and then grasp for the breath it took away. What a radical family I have. What  a powerful answer. When she explained it, it hit me even harder.

Those moments when the train stops are frequent here in Terre Haute. Dare to travel Davis or Maple and you may experience a train either stopped on the tracks or preparing to change directions. Although, this may generally generate a plethora of negative reactions from cursing and frenzied panic of how to get around the train, it can also be an opportunity. An opportunity to slow down. To breathe. Besides my awesome aunt, my cousin Jacki had recommended I read 3 Deep Breaths years ago. I remember it saying how stop lights were a chance to practice those three deep breaths. This train scenario takes me right back to that breathing and letting go technique. It could be an opportunity to call that old friend and catch up. It may be a chance to turn up the radio and have a little dance party, to unwind, let your hair down and belt out some tunes. Maybe you just need a little silence. A little break in the day to reconnect to yourself, to realign and be ready for whatever comes. Maybe someones in the car. I Continue reading

Dear Yoga: Thank You

Yoga practice...not yoga perfect:)Dear Yoga,

Thank you. Thank you for that practice this morning.

Thank you for the time. Time to surrender. Time to allow myself to relax. Time to be present.

To bring awareness to my body and its space in time.

To bring awareness to my thoughts. To wash them away. To elevate them.

To bring awareness to my soul. To the feelings I’m having. To let me acknowledge them.

To bring me peace. To bring me serenity.

To bring awareness to my breathing.

To allow me to let go.

To FEEL alive.

To set intentions.

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