Be Unexpected

BE UNEXPECTED.

This popped into my head today as I was biking around town. Getting lots of stares. Maybe because I have shorts on in January. Maybe it’s my extraordinary leg warmers. Maybe it’s just because people gawk. Maybe it’s because I don’t look like your average Terre Haute commuter. Who knows (maybe it’s actually a little of them all), but I grasped this idea of being unexpected.

As children we’re conditioned. Told who we are. Smart. Beautiful. Artsy. Athletic. Or even negatively. Stupid. Ugly. Fat. We are labeled, and so we often stick to the box we’ve been shoved in to.  We quietly stay in the archetype we’ve been assigned.

I find as an adult, or when we’re meeting new people, we don’t have this back story. We often take people at face value. Rarely do people fully get the experience of one another. Because we are often afraid to show people are true selves. We may share glimpses. Like a partly cloudy day. We don’t just shine in our full potential, a bright sun in the sky.

I find within myself, I kind of enjoy being underestimated. Seeing people’s expressions as they discover more about me. Because that’s it, there is MORE to people than we see or know. There are skills. Passions. Dreams. Challenges. And beauty within us all. Continue reading

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Life to Tears

“Live to the point of tears.” Albert Camus

This morning as I sat on our closed in porch watching the snow fall, coffee in hand warming my body, journal in the other diving into what I am thankful for lighting up my soul, I go back to Jason Silva, back to this Camus quote.

I get this quote.. I’ve been there. I want to be there more. When we lived in Colorado. I hiked the same path every Sunday, but one day I looked up. I looked up and saw the changing Aspen trees of the Fall. The fresh, first snow of the season blanketing the top of the mountain. I was overwhelmed. Lost for words. As Jason points out, I was moved, transported, shaken, touched by something greater than myself. I cried. Reduced to nothing but tears. And I stood there. I stood there, tears streaming untouched down my face and I took it in. I felt that awe. It washed over me. I tried to capture it, but it eluded in me. I could not capture on my phone that feeling. I couldn’t grasp the beauty completely. But that life to tears bit, that is a feeling I want more of. Continue reading

Saying Yes to No

Living Well Spending Less™...reminds me of Chip Ingram's quote, "Busyness is satan's tool for a barren life."I’m so tired of the anthem, “I’m so busy.” Everything that’s on your plate is there because you said yes to it.

Recently Lululemon released this little gem of a video about giving presence this holiday season (something we should give everyday?). This quote came from the wildly brilliant Danielle LaPorte. I LOVE this quote. When my friends broke up with their boyfriends earlier this year, I thought and talked to them a lot about space (or time if you will). When someone leaves our lives there is a gap, a space opens up. How do you fill the void of time you spent with them? So when I think of it in that way, I also realize that we are constantly determining how to fill our space. We are deciding how we spend our time. Who is there. Where we go. What we do. How do you fill up your space? No one else is responsible for it but you. What are you creating? What are you saying yes to? What are you saying no to?

I agree with Danielle that we often glorify and applaud busyness. Especially this time of year, we are so busy getting ready for the Holiday, are we truly celebrating and enjoying it? Why? Why fill up our lives with a bunch of mindless check points? What if we did fewer things with more intention? With more mindfulness? What if we did things we are passionate about? What if we made space for people who fill us up? Who energize us? Who inspire us? Continue reading

Because this Life is Pretty Magical

6pig-Rv8Uf3uer8G7y0W6NORwkFeaErSpvxathXijSc=w932-h524-noPart of me struggles with this social media thing. Projection vs. sharing I guess. Perception? When I think of getting rid of it, what keeps me hanging on?

As I rode home today on my bike, post hike, I looked off into the most breathtaking sunset. I literally had to stop for a moment and soak it all in. Dumbfounded by the cars blazing by, all the while I stood not able to get my fill. I wanted to take a picture. I know I can never quite capture the whole awe-consuming beauty of the experience, but part of me wants to remember and remind myself of the beauty that this life has to offer.

And so I thought, that part of me shares because I’m that hippy girl who likes to think positive. In a world with abundant negative energy, criticism, bitching, and judgement, it is refreshing to be a voice for all things positive. An eternal optimist if you may. I think life is magical. I think this world is beautiful. And so I share things, people, and places that I find beautiful. I will post nature shot after nature shot because it brings me peace. It’s my place. My place to breathe. My place I go and  feel at once complete. Where I feel content. The moment feels perfect. I can throw my head back. I can have the sun beam down on my face, or sometimes have the rain wash over me. Regardless of what the weather is, my heart always longs to go there. And so I share to remind myself too that this world is a beautiful place. I share because it is good Continue reading

BE Kind

[Kindness is] a big deal, and it touches every single thing in your life.  Ali MacGrawWhat do you want to be your legacy?

Kindness.

The Dalai Lama said, “My religion is kindness.” Growing up kind was such a little word. But it is a big deal.

I have not gotten this out of my head since I heard it from Ali MacGraw on Super Soul last week. It flickers in and out of my head. A complete and utter aha moment. Kindness does matter.

I often am contemplating dreams. How do I live the life I want? What can I do better? But more important than doing better, is how can I be better? How am I treating people? Honestly. Reflect. How are you treating others? How’s your energy?

Are you snapping out in stress? Are you rushing and making others feel like you don’t have time for them? Or are you open? Are you open to their thoughts? Open to soul sharing? Are you physically open? Can you embrace others? How often do you smile? How often do you give a smile to someone else? What an inexpensive gift to give: a smile. How often do you give compliments? How often do you listen? Truly listen. How often are you accepting of others? How often are you judging? Continue reading

START!

What's your goal?

Recently it has come to my heart (actually its managed to manifest its way into my life a lot recently) lately that something key in life, especially when it comes to dreams, is starting. Taking a first step. And then another. Striding towards the life of our dreams. Closer to love. Closer to our dream job. Closer to our desires. Closer to ourselves. How important it is merely to START. Where do dreams begin? With the thought. With the seed. But first you must actually put the seed into the ground.

What do you lose by starting? While pondering this the other day, I opened up my Gabby Bernstein to a page about showing up. How 90% of life and change is showing up. So do it. First, put yourself in a position for change. Start.

Start a new exercise routine. Show up to a kettlebell class. Get your ass on a yoga mat. Stand at a trail head. Put your running shoes on.

Start meditating. Get calm. Get chill. Make a meditation playlist. Light some candles. Close your mind. Learn some mantras. Study some mundras. Emerse yourself in silence. Relax. Make time. Create a time and space to let go. To let light in. Continue reading

Dream State vs. Our Actual Lives

She's a dreamer, a doer, a thinker. She sees possibility everywhere.Today I couldn’t help but wonder:

What creates the disconnect between dreaming without limits and living without limits?

I think this all started out of a conversation with my cousin the other night. He usually seems to be on my case. Joking about my ‘stoner’ mentality (despite the the fact that you actually should smoke weed in order to be a stoner) and spirit animal way of talking (although I’d like to point out that he was the one pulling out pics of his spirit animal on his phone-a bear cub in a bath tub with bubbles on its nose). Anyway, he can jest about my dreamer ways, but when it was just the two of us, I am a great person to share dreams with. I am constantly reevaluating mine, tweaking, sharing, and taking actions to make mine happen. But more I listen. Talk dreams to a dreamer because they’re not going to tell you No or point out limitations. They’re going to say: do it! Because when he shared with me that he could see himself developing into a director, I knew he’d be great at it. You could tell it was something he was passionate about.

So we have this rad conversation about true dreams, but when someone asks later about where he sees himself the answer changes. The typical, safe answer, not the creative dream of his heart that we just talked about.

One: I wonder why we hold ourselves back from even dreaming? I find I can often weasel dreams out of my friends and family, but sometimes its not something we allow time for, for ourselves. Why? Why are we afraid of wanting the life of our dreams? Is it the vulnerability of dreams? Is it the raw connection and journey into our souls that we have to take to realize dreams? Is it the uncomfortable feeling of knowing we are not on the path of our dreams? We all have wants, why are we afraid to dream or more importantly ask for them. Why deny ourselves of the things and experiences we truly want?

Two: do we then not live our dreams because of reasons above? Because we’re afraid? Because we’re afraid of our potential? Because we’re looking at the big picture and not the daily tasks to make dreams come true?

Where does that disconnect come in then? We have dreams, why are we not living them? Why are we not starting on them? Why are we not taking action?

What is separating our dream state from our reality?

So many questions. So many variables for each person. Are dreams worth the risk? Are they worth living? Do we truly want to live out loud? If this is our one shot and opportunity, this life, why not?

Today is just a day of pondering life’s questions. There are not always concrete answers. But for me, I want to take strides and believe I’m in my dream. Like the tattoo on my arm:

Our truest life is when we are in dreams awake.

Don’t Hold Back

You will always be too much of something for someone. Be yourself anyway. Subscribe: DanielleLaPorte.com #Truthbomb #Words #Quotes“Don’t serve the world a water downed version of yourself.” ~Me, Brittany Paulin,  in one radical thought flow.

I sometimes feel guilty that I’m experiencing joy or being happy for happiness sake and no other reason than choice. I get/have gotten backlash in the past for being positive. The has sometimes led me to feel guilty when my ego has its way. Hiking the other day, I stopped: DO NOT HOLD BACK. Boom, it slammed into me, complete truth.

I’ll watch myself worrying. I’m too much. I’m too much energy. Too positive. Too laid back. Too creative. Too chill. I’ve got too many ideas. My style is too much. I laugh too much. I smile too much. Even the opposite end, I’m too quiet.

I notice it with my friends. I’m afraid I’ll overwhelm them. They’ve told me my energy is too much (just a couple of weeks ago shopping one of them brought it up). They’ve lectured me about riling up the dog. When I claim to be just chilling, I’m told, merely talking can create enthusiasm and excitement in my being. I confess it, often times I find myself bursting with energy and I actually end up taming it down or keeping it to myself, saving it for a later hike. Continue reading

Bliss the Brand

I like what it's saying more than the actual designBreak times have become my Desire Map times. The other day just opening the book I was hit with a lightening hot streak of intuition and creativity. Luckily there was a whole blank page for me to scribble ideas onto. I couldn’t write fast enough to keep up with all the ideas flowing through me.

I’ll confess my old job had become a bit of distraction, but this new change, the uncertainty I’ve been experiencing in my life, the waves and roller coaster I’ve been on lately, and the book I’ve been reading lately, have me reconnecting me with my dreams. Do you ever feel stuck? I got into the market. I love being there every week. What next? How do I want to grow my business? How do I want to expand my audience? Where do I want to channel my creativity? Where do I dedicate my energy?

Boom, here is the lightening at work: what is Bliss the Brand. I need to get up close and personal with the product and brand I am creating. What is it’s purpose? What does it feel like? What does it look like? How does it smell? How about my packaging? What about my customer service? What does the person looking into my booth see and feel? What do I want people to say? Who are my followers? Who are my buyers? How can I serve them? What kind of vibes do I give off? What about me? How do I represent my brand? How can I do better? What do I need to change? How can I grow? I can I expand? What more do I want for Bliss Delish? I see the long term vision, I’ve seen it for a long time: a little cabin cafe in the woods. Oversize, comfy worn floral fabric chairs. Fleetwood Mac turning on a stereo in the background. Copper mugs, steaming with soul-warming coffees and teas. The smell of freshly brewed java and baked goods lingering in the air. A fire place crackling on one wall, with a group of plaid-clad dinners nestled around laughing, Continue reading