We spend inordinate amounts of time calculating how much we have, want, and don’t have and how much everyone else has, needs, wants. We spend most of the hours and days of our lives hearing, explaining, complaining, or worrying about what we don’t have enough of.
How many of you feel like you have wasted valuable time in your life in this spiral of need/want? Feeling that no matter what you do, how you look, no matter how hard you try, it is not enough. You are not enough. There is always more out there. More money. More clothes. More passion. More food. More adventure. More, more, more. Our lives are waiting out there, outside of ourselves. Why can we not be content? Why can we not be enough? Why do we want to be boringly perfect? Why? What is wrong with you? What is wrong with me? What is really so terrible and wrong with life right now? I was given this life and these skills, why do I want to idealize and be someone else? In today’s world and social media it’s easy to idealize someone elses projected life.
Today I am challenging myself then. To notice when I am wasting a thought or time on inadequacy. And they are frequent. Take an hour or a day to see how often they appear. I’m not funny enough, I’m not strong enough, I’m not worthy, I’m not tall enough, I’m not perfect, I’m not skinny enough, I’m not wealthy enough I’m not as outgoing as I should be, I’m not creative enough, and on and on. Am I breathing? Am I walking, talking and full of potential. Am I loved and capable of love? Can I smile? Can I talk/write and share my ideas, compassion, and creativity? Do I have arms, can I hug? Do I have legs to carry me where I need to go? Why are these things not enough then?
Switch. Switch the thought to one of gratitude. To one of love and compassion. Not just to others either, but to yourself. STOP wasting time with not being enough. Change thoughts of want and need, to thoughts of thankfulness and contention!
- The Reward of Gratitude (jonathanhilton.com)
- Self Acceptance, Gratitude and the Heart chakra (transitioninmotion.wordpress.com)
- Far from normal or far too normal? (myblogexactly.wordpress.com)